"Lauk pindang dah masak?" It came out from one of Mak Lam's best buddies when I first walked into the hospital ward. All other 5 pairs of eyes turned to me. I was like ... did I forgot something?? Mak Lam can only managed a very weak smile and said that she have asked for Kak Yah to cook it for her.
Mak lam and her 5 buddies have been life long friends. They've been with her in her good and bad times since they were colleagues in their early 20s. That was a whole of 40 or more years of friendship.
My mom-in-law is not rich, but she have always been surrounded by people who truly cares for her as she had for others. She would never have a second thought to help a friend in need .. and especially so for all her children.
Today, I saw sadness in her eyes as I heard, the sadness in her voice just 2 days ago.
The day that Mr hubby said that he found her alone at home, peeing on herself. I have controlled the tears from flowing. There was so much sadness in my heart. How can we let her come to this?
I called kak Shidah probing how she'd feel if we take Mak to live with us. I know she would have no problem with it but mak was having reservation. I called her and address her concern. And she said .."I'm not having the normal ill ... I'm really ill I can't bathe myself."
It made me so sad... and I wished I could just hugged her then. "Mak, I'll give you a morning bath k and abg will take care of you in the afternoon".
That day when I went home, I dashed to my own mom's room and hugged her. I kissed her many times as my tears just kept flowing. I love Mak Lam as I have loved my mom and I just can't imagine if the same happened to my mom.
I've asked my parents how they'd feel if we get mak Lam to stay with us and I was just so glad that they're very supportive about it.
I just had a feeling that Mak Lam is giving up.
It have been a week that she barely eats or drinks. Kak Shidah mentioned that many times she have caught Mak Lam gazing longingly at arwah Ayah's wall framed photos. She must have missed him.
And we have done nothing to ease that pain. We practically haven't tried hard enough. We... her children. And it made me sadder that Kak Yah mentioned she will only bring her the lauk pindang on Sunday. I just wish that she could at least drop by tomorrow.
It was sad. For now, I can't bear to break that news to her.
God, please help us make it better for her.
2 comments:
It's no surprise you are feeling that way towards nenek. I've seen many years before, as far back as when datuk is around.
As a grandchild, I have no right to say anything but my responsibility towards Nenek will always be No1.
When arwah atuk passed away, there were so many tears, saying that he was a good man and raised his children the best he can. Tears rolled down the cheeks of Beloved Nenek, his Anaks, Menantus and Cucus. Everyone was evidently sad, n said they will take care of nenek, never want to make her feel lonely or sad.
But now look, where are we? Are we keeping our words? Nenek have 5 children. Time changes pple's priority so much. We cant avoid that for sure, but we must not treat her only as an EXCESS BAGGAGE. Money can always find, but we can only have One Great MoM, One Unconditional Grandma.
We have leaned on her for so many years. Now its time for us to wake up and let her KNOW n FEEL that we are taking care of her and love her. Not materially or juz there for physically. Never take it for granted that there will be ANOTHER TOMORROW for Nenek.
FYI: Ayah only found the ikan parang on Sat and we prepared it.I cooked the lauk pindang as Mama is working. A day late n feeling so guilty, but i was happy Nenek ate it. a GLINT of HAPPINESS in her eyes can be seen as I feed her. Alhamdullilah.
May Allah Bless Ramlah's Family With Clean Hearts, Good Health & Abundence Wealth Always.
Lots of Love,
Nana
Amin Ya Rabnal Alamin! Yes she sure was happy and had a second servings of your lauk pindang :)
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